I’ve just devoured part one of a series by Tracee Ellis Ross on her relationship with and perception of her body. She explains that for her, the relationship changes regulary depending on a number of factors. I think, for most women, some semblance of this is true. This is not to say that we don’t love our bodies. Generally speaking, we do. We must. And we are always striving, aiming, for unwavering self love. That said, it is not as easy as it sounds. And, like Tracee, I think it is worthwhile for every woman to explore and dissect their relationship with their body.
Consider the images with which we are constantly bombarded. Explore how you define what is “sexy”, what is beautiful & desirable, what it means to be thin and what is acceptable or unacceptable in the realtionship between a woman and her body. In reference to how we've come to perceive ourselves she recalls a quote from Harriet Tubman:“If I could have convinced more slaves that they were slaves, I could have freed thousands more.”
You should read Tracee’s article. And after you do, take a minute to reflect on how you see yourself. If you find it necessary, change it.
Below is a powerful excerpt from the piece. You can read the full article here.
“Sexuality is more than just the physical act; it is a beautiful, sacred, and powerful thing. May we each spend time getting to know and cherishing our bodies. May we honor the wisdom they hold. May we joyfully inhabit these sacred, beautiful, rhythmic bodies of ours in a way that is empowering and delightful. May we hold space for our sisters, daughters, mothers and aunts to do the same in their own way and at their own pace.”